Faith/Religion Category

Thursday, December 24th, 2009

On the 12th day of Christmas…

Certainly there are many things I want.  Material things, intangible things, impossible things.  But I’ve already received the greatest gifts I could ever imagine.  My husband, my children, my loving friends and extended family.  God has richly blessed me and for that I am eternally grateful.

And I’m most grateful to Him for the gift He gave us so many years ago.  There would be no Christmas without the birth of Christ.  It’s something I have a tendency to forget because of the hectic nature of the season.  I hope that today I can remember why we’re celebrating.  There will be the craziness of preparing a special dinner, opening gifts, and then more gifts tomorrow morning and 2 more big meals.  But somewhere in there, I plan to sit down with my kids and remind them of why we do this.  The ultimate gift has been given to us in the form of a Savior.  Praise God from whom all blessings flow!

Friday, December 18th, 2009

On the 6th day of Christmas…

Let’s have something a little less frivolous today, shall we?  Not to be a total cliche, but I’d love to see peace on earth and goodwill to men.  All of mankind, all loving and treating each other the way we’d like to be treated ourselves.  That one thing, this small thing that should be our automatic inclination no matter who we are, is the one thing that would make me happiest.  I am the eternal optimist.  I have all kinds of hope in my heart.  And it destroys me sometimes to see the hate in this world.  Hate towards people who are, at their very core, the same as you and I.  Oh, they may be a different race or religion.  They may come from a different country or have had different opportunities than us.  But if you proclaim to be a Christian then you know that God put every single man, woman, and child on this earth for a reason.  To challenge us, to love us, to teach us, to support us…to provide something that nobody else can provide in exactly the same way.  So let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me.

Monday, November 9th, 2009

Judgment Day

Parenting is such a personal thing.  There is this minefield of issues that we all try to navigate our way through…breastfeeding, vaccinating, discipline, circumcision, education, and so many others that I can’t even begin to list them all.  Most parents go with the flow, choosing what is mainstream or most common.  Others choose to research everything to death and make decisions based on that.  Still others reject anything that is mainstream simply because it is mainstream.  I’m of the research camp.  Sometimes that leads me to do things that are mainstream and sometimes it doesn’t.  But any decision I make is backed up with lots of thought and careful consideration.  I try not to force my opinion on others.  If asked how I feel about an issue, I will tell you and back it up with knowledge.  I might share with you something that worked so that you can celebrate with me, but I don’t expect you to try the same thing or for it even to work for you and your family.

My faith is much the same way.  I’m not a Bible scholar.  I’m not some brilliant theological mind.  But the opinions I do hold come from research.  I turn to my Bible and when it’s not perfectly clear, I google.  I read articles on both sides of the issue and form my thoughts based on what I know about God and his grace.  But at the end of the day, my beliefs don’t matter.  I am not the final judge and I am not going to force you to live by my set of rules.  I’ll tell you what I think and I’ll live my life as an example to others, but I do my best not to judge.

Often parenting and faith go hand in hand.  I make decisions based on what the Bible says (or doesn’t say) about the matter at hand.  Unfortunately, the Bible can be twisted to justify almost any terrible behavior.  And then there’s the whole “New Testament vs. Old Testament” quandary.  So that can make it hard.  In the end, I do what I think is best for my child if there’s no clear consensus.  (And frankly, the only thing I’ve found to be absolutely clear is that we are supposed to love these kids and do our best to take care of them and raise them to be good people.  Really.)  So when you tell me that something I’ve done (or not done) in regards to my child is something that is Biblically indicated when I know it isn’t, I get a little bit upset.  Luckily I’m past it.  Psalm 37 has put me in a better frame of mind this morning.  There are a lot of people in this world (especially many of the people who call themselves Christian) who would benefit greatly from that scripture.

But just remember…question my parenting, question my faith…but questioning both at the same time is below the belt.

(And just to be clear, this was not something coming from my church.  BCC is still super cool.)

Monday, October 26th, 2009

When it rains it pours!

Last week is the best week we’ve had in a while financially.  Though we didn’t get any actual money, several things happened that kept us moving forward and feeling better about everything.  And today we got another bit of good news.  I feel like my patience and faith is finally being rewarded and I feel so very blessed.  For the past 16+ months, we’ve never once come up short.  Every time we needed cash for something, it appeared.  Every time we’ve needed something we couldn’t afford, it’s fallen into our laps.  And now, finally, it seems like things are turning around.

I’ve never thought you had to go to church to be a good person or a true Christian.  But when we made the decision to start attending church again something in our lives changed.  I still don’t think it makes me any better than someone who doesn’t but I think it’s changed my heart.  I’m trusting God and I know that He will provide one way or another.  It’s a big step forward for me in my spiritual journey and one that I needed desperately.

If you’ve been praying for us, don’t stop yet…but someday soon I hope we can say we’re out of the woods.

Friday, August 14th, 2009

Fun Stuff Friday — BCC

You’ve read gushing about my church before.  Starting this Sunday, they’ll be giving away $50 Walmart gift cards to 50 families visiting for the first time.  So if you’re looking for something non-traditional, filled with Christ-followers (don’t call us Christians!), and LOTS of fun, BCC may be just what you want.

The series starting Sunday is going to be a lot of fun…Finding God in your iPod.  I am personally not a contemporary Christian music girl, so hearing Nickelback, Jack’s Mannequin, Kings of Leon and more linked to my faith really appeal to me…it’s a good reminder that God is everywhere, that we don’t need to isolate ourselves from the rest of the world to find Him.

You can find Brickcity Community Church on Burns Drive, near the intersection of Burns and Hawkins, right across from the Coca Cola plant.  Services are at 9:30 and 11:00 Sunday mornings and you can come as you are…jeans and t-shirts are perfectly acceptable!  We have a coffee bar in the lobby where you can order your favorite coffee drink or a yummy smoothie.  The kid’s programs are a ton of fun and even my very attached children go willingly into their rooms each Sunday.  Every time we get on the road that takes us to the church my 3 year old gets all excited and asks if it’s Sunday…I hate having to tell him it’s not because he gets so sad!

And if you think I’m slightly crazy or weird for saying church is fun, trust me…I was there a year ago.  I thought anyone who enjoyed church was slightly strange.  Apparently it’s just a matter of finding the right one.  For us, that was BCC.

Sunday, April 26th, 2009

It’s a “God Thing.”

Less than a year ago, I decided that the years I had spent being pissed off at God had not done me any good and I decided it was time to get over it.  We started going to church again and found an awesome place where we feel comfortable and look forward to going every week.  Since then, we’ve seen God’s hand in our lives more times than I can count.  Just when I think we’re at a place where things are really desperate, we receive a blessing that keeps us going.

Our tax refunds are just enough to cover our past due mortgage payments.  We finally got our state refund and will be able to halt the foreclosure process with that money.  I am not entirely sure where we’ll get the money to pay it in the future, but I’m trusting Him to show us the way.  We’ve got hardship paperwork into the bank as well as our PMI holder and they’re both trying to help us refinance so that we can afford it going forward.  Hopefully one or the other will be able to help.  If not, well…we’ll find a place to live (hey, our van is paid for!) and it will be OK because we’re together.  Nobody is sick, nobody has died.  Our housee is just a house and as much as I love it, I know that it’s not the most important thing we have.

When the paper offered their free “employment wanted” section, my husband placed an ad for handyman jobs.  He’s gotten so many calls from that!  He’s mowing yards, installing ceiling fans, making minor home repairs, and so much more.  He’s only asking for $10/hr, but people routinely pay him much more than that and have even sent him home with boxes of food.  We’ve never been in danger of going hungry, but extra food is a huge blessing…that’s less money I have to spend on eating that month, and more that can go to other things that we’re behind on like our electric bill!

A couple of weeks ago, I had some serious pain one night.  It didn’t feel quite like a kidney stone normally does, but I figured that was probably what it was.  As the pain got worse, I got a little panicky.  I didn’t have a lot of pain medication and I don’t have health insurance.  And if I went to the ER or the free health clinic in town, I was afraid they’d assume I was drug seeking and refuse to give me any meds.  So I evaluated the number of pills I had left and swore I wouldn’t take them unless I was in unbearable pain.  After a day or so, the pain went away and I assumed it was all over with.  Last week, I started having pain that made me think I had a UTI.  Again, I was debating how to pay for a doctor’s visit when it seemed to get a little better.  And then I passed (with almost no pain and zero intervention) a gigantic kidney stone.  It was 8mm and about the size of a pea.  For those of you not well versed in the kidney stone experience, this is nothing short of amazing.  Literally a miracle.  I’ve had kidney stones half that size that I wasn’t able to pass without lithotripsy or a cystoscopy.  I’ve been praying for God to make me stop having kidney stones, but He had a different plan.  At least I’m passing them without expensive surgeries or even bad pain!

I had applied for a work-at-home job right around the time Violet was born.  At the time, they had put hiring on hold and I was told they’d contact me when training opened up again.  I figured I’d never hear another word and sort of put it out of my mind.  Then in early March, I got an invitation to start training.  Within a couple of weeks, I was working and making a little extra money.  I talked it over with my husband, and we decided to tithe on this income.  I know it’s not a full 10% of what we’re bringing in, but we’re taking baby steps here.  Before I even wrote my first tithe check, I received a promotion that will allow me to make more money!  I totally believe in the power of tithing now.

Then today, I wrote my first tithe check on my income.  Within an *hour* I had received back more than 10x the amount I gave to the church in a very unexpected way.  Less than an HOUR.  This blows me away.  I resisted the idea of tithing as recently as 3 months ago.  But the more I thought about it and prayed about it, the more I realized that this was something I needed to do, to work towards.  I’m a believer now.

This honestly doesn’t even scratch the surface of the “God Things” that have happened.  We’ve received money, been blessed with food several times, been given clothes for the kids, and been supported, prayed for, and held up emotionally by so many people.  I don’t believe that I’m being blessed simply because I’ve changed how I feel about God, but I’m a lot more willing to believe that the good stuff we’ve experienced is *because* of God.  That he’s holding us up and helping us through this scary situation.  I know some of you are rolling your eyes…I admit that I would have done the same a year ago.  Every time my mom told me that something was a “God Thing” I rolled my eyes and blew her off.  Now I just nod my head and say a little prayer of thanks, because I don’t think you can call all of this a coincidence.  One or two, yes.  But taken all together, there’s just way too much to see as anything other than “God Things.”

Tuesday, March 3rd, 2009

iwantanewmarriage

I don’t really want a new marriage…this is the title of the new sermon series at our church.  It started Sunday, but you can always catch the “re-run” online and then catch the “live” show for the remainder of the series if you’re local.  The message was excellent and though I generally think our marriage is pretty good, we can certainly use the information to make it great!

I’m a lucky, lucky woman.  I met my husband when I was just 17 and a freshman in college (parents everywhere are cringing…it terrifies me to think that my daughter could meet the man she’ll spend her life with at such a young age!) and I truly believe that God put us together.  We met at a fraternity party, both more than a little intoxicated (again, parents everywhere are cringing, including me!) so that seems strange to say but I don’t know how else to explain a relationship that started that way and is still going strong today.  We’ve come a long way from that drunken party!  My husband is my best friend and I can’t imagine what life would be like without him.  We’ve certainly had our ups and downs, and I’d classify our relationship as very off and on during our college years.  But we always came back to each other and after 7 years, he was ready to make a lifetime commitment.  I’d been ready some time before that because I knew he was The One. ;)

He treats me like a princess.  He cooks and cleans.  He does laundry.  He’s a hand-on father who doesn’t think I’m weird (or at least doesn’t voice his opinion!) for doing cloth diapers or letting our kids sleep with us when they need to.  He’s supportive of me, in everything from breastfeeding to going back to school.  I really couldn’t ask for a better husband.  So while I don’t need a new marriage, I’m always looking for ways to make it better.

If you want to hear the sermon from Sunday, it’s available here.  And Bill (the pastor) has put some additional notes on his blog here.  Because everyone can stand to work on their marriage a little, right?

Wednesday, December 31st, 2008

2008: Glad to see the end!

Today is the last day of what may go down as my worst year EVER.  I feel terrible for saying that, as I sit here less than 3 weeks from having a baby…clearly I got pregnant this year and I know that is no small thing.  It feels like something of a miracle considering our past struggles with fertility.  And if we’d waited until the time we’d initially planned on, there would be no baby because we would have put off trying due to my husband’s job loss.  So there is that one redeeming quality!  And in an effort to think a bit more positively, I’m going to try to come up with 3 more things that made this year not as bad as I’d like to think it was.

1.  We found a church where we “fit in.”  No easy task!  It’s been a long time since we felt this way about anything having to do with religion.  Though as Bill mentioned Sunday, it’s not about “religion.” ;)   If you’re looking for a church home in Sanford, give BCC a try.

2.  We are all (relatively) healthy.  After both kids having pneumonia this spring, and repeated trips to the doctor to figure out why my oldest son’s cough just will not go away lately, I realize that things could be much worse.  There’s also a million things that can go wrong during pregnancy and I’m thankful to have escaped any serious problems.  And my husband is healthy, which means not only is he willing to work, but he is ABLE to work.  And that is a major advantage in this job market.  AND, I have not had to have any kidney stone surgeries this year!  I had 3 (or maybe 4?) last year, so this is very good news.

3.  My oldest son started kindergarten at a school we love and has proven to be a great student…smart, well-behaved, and a friend to all.  I vent about his behavior at home a lot, but at school he is the kid every teacher wants.  As a mom, this makes me so happy.

4.  I thought of another one!  We’ve been very blessed this year with people who have stepped in and helped out when things got really sticky.  My mom played Santa for the boys so they would have more than the few small things we were able to afford.  A group of friends gave us $100 when we were in danger of having our power cut off in the fall.  I’ve been given maternity clothes, baby clothes, and other items that will save us money.  We’ve been given cash for our birthdays and Christmas gifts by my in-laws.  And though this isn’t really something that someone helped us with, we liquidated my husband’s 401(k) *before* the market tanked and it gave us several extra months of food and housing money.  There has been much, much, more and I know I’m forgetting people and things that happened that were true blessings to us during this year.  Each and every one has been much appreciated and we are surviving thanks to all of you.

I have high hopes for 2009.  If nothing else, we’ll be welcoming a new baby into our home and that’s reason enough to celebrate.  So raise your glass and say a toast…goodbye to 2008 and welcome 2009!

Sunday, December 21st, 2008

Can you hear it?

Today’s church service was just awesome.  They used the message from Polar Express as a metaphor for faith.  Kids performed, there was free hot chocolate, and it was a lot of fun.  I’m hoping it gets put online so my family in other places can hear/see it.  It reminded me once again of how lucky we are to have found a church where we feel at home and are able to worship in a way that makes us comfortable.  We had really been turned off by the various churches we’ve tried over the years and BCC is finally what we’ve been seeking.  It’s been a hard year for us, but I feel like I’ve rediscovered my faith through the messages we’ve heard there!

But back to the more trivial stuff, Polar Express is one of my favorite stories.  I’m a big believer in Santa Claus myself and I dread the day when my kids might decide they’re too old or cool for him.  I’ve seen debates lately where people who do the Santa thing are called liars and worse by those who do otherwise.  For some ridiculous reason, this makes me angry.  Because I’m not lying…while I may not believe in the fat guy in the red suit part of it, I totally believe in the spirit that he embodies.  I understand people who forgo Santa due to religious beliefs and I respect their convictions.  But it seems like so many (who have no religious beliefs at all!) are doing it out of some high and mighty need to be the “better” parents.  Please.  What’s wrong with a little magic and a fairy tale or two in childhood?  Isn’t that what all of the kid’s books and movies are about?  Who really believes there are talking vegetables out there or a blue dog who plays a silly game?  And if you’re keeping your kids isolated from those things, are you not reading fictional books to them at all?  The oldest children’s stories are make believe!  Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Rumpelstiltskin…these are all fairy tales and make-believe.

So yeah, I can hear the bell.  So can my kids.  And I hope they’re able to for a long, long time.

Sunday, November 23rd, 2008

Opinions are like…well, you’ve heard the rest.

So I’ve made a good dent in my weekend list now, and I’m planning to enjoy a little time with my family today in between working on the rest of it.  We’ve been to church this morning, stopped for lunch at McDonald’s on the way home (I know, I know…so healthy.  But I was craving french fries.) and will be going to the Christmas parade this afternoon as well as the Christmas tree lighting if we can stand the cold and all feel up to it.

If you live in Sanford or read the paper, you know this has become a minor controversy.  The very notion of having a *family oriented activity in honor of one of the most important Christian holidays* on a Sunday afternoon is somehow ludicrous.  Ludicrous, I tell you!  Because Sunday is supposed to be to honor God, to go to church, to rest and enjoy your family before the start of another busy week.  I think that’s one of the 10 commandments, right?  Remember the Sabbath day and keep it holy.  Well, this parade goes against ALL of that.

Huh?

Surely I’m not the only one who’s more than a little confused.  Because, to me, the chance that I’ll spend my Sunday with my family today has gone up exponentially because of the parade.  Normally, we get home from church and scatter to different corners of the house.  Me to the computer or to household chores, my husband to the TV or working outside in the yard, the kids to whatever they want to do…and we spend very little time *together* which is what I think God would actually prefer we do.  Quite frankly, going to the parade is a heck of a lot more relaxing than what I would be doing otherwise!  And I’m doing it with my family.  My husband and my boys will be there with me and I’ll be focusing on one of the most sacred holidays on the Christian calendar.  Perhaps not the most sacred aspects of it, but we’ll also be doing a lot of that this year.

I was home from church well before noon (even stopping to eat lunch on the way) because I went to the early service, so I’m not sure what churches in town are going to 2:30 or later, though that seemed to be one of the issues that was raised.  I’d say the vast majority of our local residents are home from church by 1PM if they go.  So that argument is shut down.  This is going to be a family event, so that argument is shot down.  I guess I’m not seeing the controversy and I can tell by Billy’s editorial this morning that I’m not the only one.  If it were on Saturday, there would be people kvetching about the roads being closed on a Saturday…remember the bike race?  I say kudos to the Chamber of Commerce for providing the residents of Sanford with a family-friendly activity on a Sunday afternoon.  The simple truth is you can’t please all of the people all of the time.  A fact that has been painfully obvious if you’ve read some of the letters to the editor this week.  Boo to those who feel the need to question my faith because I’m choosing to attend the parade.  I say thank heavens I’m living my life to please God, not you.

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