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Black Friday

30 Nov

Friday I did something I’ve never done before…I got up at 3:30AM on the day after Thanksgiving to go Christmas shopping.  As I said on my Facebook status that morning, being poor makes you do crazy things!  I couldn’t afford the luxury of spending regular price on Christmas gifts this year…the budget is miniscule compared to years past and we wanted to get as much as we could.  All 3 kids got left with my mom while my husband and I braved the stores.  We were in Knoxville, so had all kinds of retail options which was nice.  I do miss having that in Sanford!

Our first stop was Walmart.  We had told our son that if he truly wanted a Nintendo DS that he could use the money he’d saved to buy one.  That was our Christmas present to him.  A little sneaky and probably not a great move, but it was the only way we could afford to get him something that he really wanted.  So when I saw that Walmart would have DS Lites for $98 on Black Friday they came first on my plan of attack.  We got in line at about 4:15AM and got one of the last tickets available for that item.  At 5AM the line started moving quickly and by 5:05AM we had a red Nintendo DS Lite in our hands.  I had already been to the toy section to see if any of the other items on our list were on sale but they weren’t, so we headed to the checkout immediately.  Along with EVERYONE else in the store.  It was a madhouse.  It probably took a good 45 minutes to get checked out.  While my husband stood in line I grabbed a couple of other things…breastpads (because it was time to nurse Violet but she was at my mom’s house, thus I had a minor problem) and chocolate covered cherries, my mom’s favorite treat.  We got checked out (FINALLY!) and headed to Kohl’s for 50% off Fisher Price toys.

Once we got to Kohl’s, we saw that their checkout line was wrapped around the entire store.  I directed my husband to go stand in it and headed for the toy section.  I had a list of things I wanted to get for Violet that included a Fisher Price tea set, a purse, and a princess hooded towel.  I found them all, along with some stocking stuffers and hooded towels for the boys, a couple of DS games, a dragon set for my younger son, and a pastel girly shape sorter for Violet.  We spent almost our entire budget there, but got it all for about half regular price.  Can’t beat that!

We were checked out by 7AM and thought we’d stop at a couple more stores, just to see if we could find anything else we were looking for on sale.  We couldn’t, so we headed back to my mom’s house.  We were back there by about 8AM and pretty much done with the Christmas shopping.  I have to say…it was a little bit of a rush saving so much money even though I had to drag myself out of the nice warm bed at a time that I’m usually deep in dreamland.  I have a few more things I have to get and then when my mom gets here I’m taking her to buy gifts for the kids.

We’ll have toys under the tree this year.  Maybe not as many as in years past, but that’s OK…it will give us a chance to focus more on the real reason for the holiday.  And maybe, in the coming years, we can remember this year and how happy the kids were with less stuff.

 

This story is not Sanford.

19 Nov

The story of Shaniya Davis is tragic.  It is disgusting.  It is scary.  It is many things.

It is NOT Sanford.  Everyone I know is just as shocked as me that this happened here.  I am heartbroken for many reasons about this story, not the least of which is the fact that this town I love, my adopted home, has entered the national spotlight for this, of all things.  Those of you watching on CNN, on Nancy Grace, on other national news stations don’t see what I see.

I see a place that has so many wonderful people that they were turning away volunteers for the search.  The people of this town wanted to bring that little girl home to her family, one way or another.  There were many, like me, who couldn’t handle the actual search and offered other help.  They even had to turn away those types of volunteers.

I was at the park with a friend the afternoon she was found.  I needed to get out of this house and the park seemed like a good place to be.  There, the other moms were just as horrified as we were by the news.  Sickened, shocked, and scared.

Now that I’m a few days removed from this, I see that I have no reason to be scared.  This was the result of fantastically horrible parenting.  Someone who was obviously in over their head, who didn’t realize the profound gift that motherhood is.  While I’m certainly not Mother of the Year, I think it’s safe to say that there is no way I would ever sell my child into prostitution to support my drug habit.  (Obviously this is all alleged at this point, but it sounds like they have a good reason to charge her with that.)  Lee County isn’t some hotbed of child prostitution or human trafficking.  This was a result of the actions of a few bad people.  I will certainly continue to be vigilant but I refuse to live in fear.

And I have hope.  Because in the midst of this terrible story, I’m reminded that for every one bad person there are many, many more good people.  People who are just as horrified by this as I am.  People who feel this overwhelming need to DO something to fix this even though they don’t know what that something is.  People who are heartbroken for and cried real, painful tears about this little girl they’d never met.

I feel like I need to reassure myself and everyone else that Sanford is a beautiful town.  Not necessarily because of the scenery (though there are some beautiful places here!), but because of the people.  Please don’t let this one story color your opinion of us.  We are not the Shaniya Davis story.  We are so much more.

 

Tasty Tuesday — More Pumpkin

17 Nov

I had some more pumpkin, so I did some more recipe searching.  Pumpkin Bundt Cake + Basic Cake Glaze = Absoulutely delicious!

The butterscotch pudding in the was just the right ingredient.  It’s sweet, but not so sweet that you feel bad after eating it.  Yummmmmmm!

 

Motivation Monday — Kid Appreciation

16 Nov

Right now I’m holding my babies a little closer.  Thankful that they are with me, and healthy, and ALIVE.  I am devastated by the news locally, trying hard to understand why there are such terrible people in this world.  This week I’m going to try to be a little more patient.  Give them a lot of hugs and kisses and special treats just for being them.  And I’m going to do my best to remember not to take them for granted going forward.

I’m also reminded that there are sick people everywhere and that no place is safe.  So I will remember to trust my instincts…sexual predators don’t stop at the borders of Lee County.  I know this, but it’s really been driven home over the last few days.

My heart and prayers are going out to Shaniya Davis and her family.  I pray that those responsible are brought to justice and that, someday, those who love her are able to find peace.

 

TGIF

13 Nov

I’m not sure why I haven’t blogged this week…it’s not been particularly crazy.  I did spend a lot of time getting caught up on homework assignments that I couldn’t complete because of computer issues, but that’s not taken up too much time.  It’s been a bad week for pain with all of the rain (when did I get so old that my pain levels were dictated by the weather???) so I guess I haven’t wanted to sit here much.  The weather is also slightly depressing and I hate to be negative here.  So I guess I’m blaming it on the rain…the good thing is that I didn’t pretend to post it myself when I really had someone else doing it for me!

Clearly I am a total dork.  I really hope someone else gets that…